So many times, moms put everyone before themselves.  Society has told us that we ladies are the caretakers.  But sometimes, sugar, you gotta take care of yourself.  Everyone should give way occassionally, but always being a doormat is something you should drop like a bad habit.  Need to grow a pair?  Here are some tips.

Break the put-down habit

Stop your negative thoughts in their tracks.  If you find yourself thinking that you're dumb or worthless, then why would you expect others to treat you well?  You are amazing, so start thinking it, and consciously change your thought pattern when you start putting yourself down.

Ask the hard questions

Not everyone has pure motives (just ask my ex-husband!).  Ask yourself questions, such as, "Why does this person want me to do this?"  And pay attention to a person's actions, not necessarily their words.

Don't always be the person to give in

Yes, it's great to have friends and be a peacemaker, but you don't always have to be the one to sacrifice.  Stand your ground, and be confident in your beliefs.  Sometimes, people won't like you, and that's OK.

Think of yourself first (sometimes)

When it comes to your kids, you usually put yourself last.  With some dude in the grocery store?  Maybe you should sometimes think of yourself first.  That doesn't mean you have to be rude; in fact, you shouldn't be.  But being rude and being assertive are not the same things.  So, stand up, woman!  You deserve the last package of steak!

Don't be afraid; just say no!

Saying "no" and keeping friends are not mutually exclusive.  Practice saying "no" to some little things, and it will make the big things easier to deny.  If you really have trouble, then seek some therapy.  Nothing wrong with a little time on the couch (just ask my ex-husband!).

Have you broken the doormat habit?  Tell us how!