Gossip Girl is a fabulous TV show for teens (and thirties... shuuurdup!), but it's not so attractive to be known as a Gossip Girl when you're a mother.  Is your resolution this year to put the breaks on the chatter?  Well, we got you covered with It's a New Year, It's a New You!

Why stop gossiping?

We're social creatures, and we'll never stop talking about one another.  But is gossiping making you an unreliable friend?  Do your pals not trust you with their big secrets?  Do you people call a gossip (maybe you should listen)?  Everyone gossips a little, but if it's interfering with your relationships, then you have a problem.

Tips to kick it

If your habit of gossiping is troubling you, then it's time to change your behavior.  Here are some tips.

Don't engage

If your friends are having an all-out gossip fest, don't engage.  It's not your place to lecture them on their habits, but don't put in your two (or ten) cents.  And don't be afraid to change the subject.

Recognize your behavior

Recognize when you're gossiping, and stop it in its tracks.  Turn the conversation to other issues.

Keep a diary

You heard a juicy tidbit and just have to share?  Write it down in your diary, and lock that sucker up.

Don't dwell on the negative

If you're going to engage in gossip, then don't get nasty.  Harmless gossip isn't bad ("Did you see Jane's new shoes?) but gossip that's meant to hurt (or can hurt) is ("I think Jane got those shoes because her husband is cheating with his new secretary."). 

If all else fails, seek help

If your gossiping is destructive, and you can't seem to stop, then it's best to seek out a therapist who can help you get to the root of your problem.

Online resources

• How Gossip Works


• How to Free Yourself from Gossip


• How to Avoid Gossip in the Workplace