5 Ways to Put Sex Back Into the Marriage

If you watch sitcoms, you'd think that once a couple gets married sex ceases, much to the chagrin to the beleagured husband (cue laugh track).  And although work, kids, and stress can slow downthe old sex drive, both men and women still want to take a romp in the sack.  Sometimes, it's just difficult.  So, we thought we'd help out with a list of ways to put the spark back into your fire.

1.  Ask for it (but don't be pushy):  If you want to have sex, just, you know, ask to have sex.  It sounds all too simple, and it is.  Sometimes you aren't having sex because no one is getting off his lazy tuckus to request it.  However, once you start pushing your partner for sex, you've entered the begging zone.  No one is attractive in the begging zone.

2.  Make sex a priority:  It's a fact that a happy marriage can only exist if both partners are happy with their sex lives.  Sure, scheduling sex is not Calgon-take-me-away romantic, but sometimes romance is over-rated.  And everything else in your life is scheduled to the minute, anyway; how else are you going to fit doing the deed into your busy lifestyle?

3.  Don't work/eat in bed:  Bed should be for two things:  sleeping and gettin' it on.  Banish eating, watching TV, and working from your nest of lovin'.  Otherwise, your luxurious mattress starts to look more like a messy kitchen table.  And that ain't sexy. 

4.  Date:  It's a lot easier to lead into sex after a night of dancing and dining rather than a day of cleaning up spit up and washing dishes.  Hire a babysitter, and make your partner the focus of the evening, which he or she so often is not.

5.  Make your partner feel attractive:  Tell your husband he's hot.  Tell your wife that she's beautiful.  Letting your partner know that you find her desirable makes having sex a lot more enjoyable.  Those extra five pounds mean nothing if the person you love still thinks you're smokin'.