Do You Swear In Front of Your Kids?

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Thu, 2010-03-04 09:49

It is so sad that people responsible for children have no respect for themselves; cursing in front of their children...it's bad enough to curse in front of other people. Everyone wants respect but cursing surely is not a sign of respect. Some of the comments show that there is shame in cursing because the individual catches themself, especially in front of children....it appears the individuals who curse have no respect for themselves...especially females...apparently their command of Enclish or whatever language spoken, is not very good...if the individuals had a good command of their language, other words that aren't curse words can be spoken' words that won't offend other people who do not curse...maybe cursers aren't aware of how offensive they sound when they curse. I am embarassed for the individual who is cursing because it sounds so childish and not very intelligent. Everyone wants their children to grow up right and be a productive citizen...stop and think that employers won't hire someone who curses as a normal part of their daily launguage, regardless of how many degrees that person has...final comment is "What Would Jesus Do?" Would you be proud for Him to hear your cursing language?

Wed, 2010-02-24 08:22

I agree with whats-her-name (sorry, I'm new). I never really understood what makes one word "bad" and another with same meaning "good." For instance the word ass is bad where the word butt or bottom or butocks... all ok??? Ass is a much prettier word, why did it get the forbidden label? I'd much rather talk about my ass than my bottom or my "anus," eeeeeew, talk about an icky word right there. Doesn't exactly conjure up sweet images for me. But I do love my ass, my gulteous buttamus, my bootie.
The same thing goes for the word shit. How does poop compair? Or fecal matter.... uh. But shit gets the bad rap. Silly to me.
I don't like the "f" bomb. Just personal preference. I hate the way it's used sometimes. Sex is a much prettier word in this case. "Sexual", that's pretty. The word "intercourse" just makes me wince. You wanna have what? That just doesn't sound very fun to me. Maybe you shouldn't do it, I mean... did your doctor say it was ok?
I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels that way about words. I have 3 kids all under 8. I don't encourage them to "swear" cuz they gotta get along with their teachers and stuff. Also, I try not to do it in front of them so much cuz I can't imagine that makes it easier. In all, its just a weird society-based thing to me, and that's what I tell them.

Mon, 2009-02-09 09:31

I do, sometimes like a sailor. And if I catch either my daughter or stepson using even fake swear words (like freaking for example, or sucks) I chastise them for it and sometimes give them consequences.

I tell them that the seven deadly words are Mommy Words, and when they are a Mommy (or Daddy) they can use them as much as they like. Yeah, it's really lazy of me, but it works.

Thu, 2009-01-29 12:25

I never curse in front of my kids. Ever. That's why I curse constantly on my blog.

Mon, 2009-01-26 11:12

I agree with the savvy moms who know there is no shame in a potty mouth since it goes in the grown up activity category, like driving. The reactions are key, and the parental domination of never saying shit makes it juicy to do so. I may swear in front of Aston or Indiana Jones will and we just check in with him that he knows it is a grown up word, aka not to be used in school where an adult can hear him!
Once when he was 4ish, during a freestyle prayer riff, he says: And God loves me even if I say the A word or the B word or the S word, even though I don't even know what the B word is, but Justin at school said it is pretty bad. ROTFLMAO!!!! The next day I asked what the S word was and he said, stupid.
He has never been intrigued by the whole thing. He has said: That sucks, and when I asked, What did you say? He says, Just trying it out. But if he asks me what they mean, I try to give him an idea of the nature of the insult without going into detail. It's like a parenting challenge for me. Just doing research for my next coaching client! Great topic ladies...

Dawn
www.licensed2parent.com

Sat, 2009-01-24 15:30

I don't have a potty mouth but I have to admit to swearing once in a while in front of the offsprings.. swearing is a weird and funny thing sometimes, I came to live in montreal around 5 years ago and here saying anything related to the catholic church is a swear word... so hostie (host) swear word... holy communion.. swear word... calice (chalice/calix) also a swear word... to me that is just too darn funny!!

Thu, 2009-01-22 14:59

Call me old-fashioned or up-tight or any other hyphened word, but my husband and I only curse around each other. And we're trying to cut that out.

I, too will admit that nothing is funnier than throwing a expletive out there occasionally. And sometimes there is no other word that fully describes what you want to say, BUT...

I don't like to do it in front of others, and I certainly do not want my children to do it.

Maybe it's because I'm a pastor's wife. Okay, well that has a lot to do with it.

Thu, 2009-01-22 13:05

my husband and i cuss in front of our 9 month old constantly... assuming that he doesn't get it. but maybe we should hold back and attempt to tame our potty mouths before jackson can understand what we're saying. i'm not sure if it would even matter though because i learned the other night, when giving jackson a bath, that he thoroughly enjoys having soap in his mouth. so it's not like i'll be able to use that as punishment for cussing... fuck that.

Thu, 2009-01-22 11:33

First, I've gotta say, the bleeps make this episode funnier for some reason. At least to me.

For me, the whole concept of "bad words" has never made much sense. I grew up in a fairly strict household cursing-wise, but just never understood this notion that certain words were designated and set apart, such that uttering them was awful -- when you could say things that mean the same thing, or say things much more hurtful, or even use the forbidden words in a non-hurtful way.

I did briefly conduct an experiment when I was 8 or so with my parents, that I mentally dubbed "What the fuck is wrong with fuck?" Basically the concept was over-exposure and example, and they would surely see my impeccable logic.

It did not go over well. That was the end of my cussing career for the next decade.

My husband had it much worse than I did. He was raised to never ever EVER cuss, or say words that were "replacement words" for cuss words (cottonpickin' was just as bad as motherfuckin'; shoot was the same as shit, etc.), and he got his mouth washed out with actual soap for any transgressions. So even now, if I cuss in front of my son -- and by "cuss" I mean "dammit" -- he'll glare at me.

But I see nothing wrong with cussing, at least nothing separately wrong with it. Hurtful is hurtful, slang is slang, it's all the same to me. But by osmosis and just habit, I hardly ever cuss, naturally. That, coupled with the fact that I really would rather my son spout something other than words that will get nasty-grams sent home from his first-grade teacher, and my language lately amounts to "Golly gosh darn it! Horsefeathers at all this bull-honkey!" (for which my husband's grandmother would probably like to wash my mouth out anyway).

My son did ask me about bitch a few months ago, which I think is one of the few cuss words that I can almost unequivocally tell him it's wrong to use, at least in the noun form that doesn't mean female dog. I just told him it was a word that meant girl dog, but people also use it now to insult people girls, and since that's what everyone thinks when they hear the word we shouldn't say it, even if we're talking about girl dogs. The message was basically if you can avoid hurtfulness in language, do so. He's been exposed to most of the "biggies," but doesn't really think anything of it one way or another. It's just another situation where you can choose to say this or that, choose to be mean or nice.

This is how unexposed my son is to cussing: The other day in the parking lot, someone slammed a car door on her hand and addressed the car, hollering, "Stupid fucking piece of fucking shit! Dammit!"

He looks solemn. "Mom! She said stupid!"

Wed, 2009-01-21 17:57

I grew up with both parents swearing like sailors. For my dad the F word was just punctuation.
So naturally my language wasn't exactly the cleanest. My mother would tell me off for swearing in my teens and i had no reason to pay any attention because she'd turn around and swear just as bad 2 minutes later.
Then I married a mormon and had a baby, took me a long time to eradicate the swearing from my vocabulary but I did it. Now when people swear it really hits a lot harder than it ever used to. Where bad language used to bounce off me like rubber balls it now pierces me like arrows. I wonder how children feel about it?

Wed, 2009-01-21 17:35

Can I just say that I'm Australian. Swearing like a sailor is a way of life over here. Everyone does it. Okay, so almost everyone. My in laws are still firmly planted in the Victorian era where one must say "Excuse me?" instead of "what?" blah blah blah.

So yes, I swear in front of Erin and she has quite an array of "inappropriate" words which she can even use in context. Actually, her third word was "bugger" so we had Dada, pup and bugger. Once she's older we'll teach her about appropriateness and that swearing is something adults are allowed to do but children' aren't.

I've had people tell me that they don't swear in front of their children because they're children aren't allowed. Well children aren't allowed to drive, should we all stop doing that in front of them too?

That said I don't tend to swear in my writing. On occasion I do, and I think that that occasion is becoming more frequent, but up until the past year or so I NEVER swear on blog. No particular reason for it though and I didn't realize I didn't do it until I started reading blogs where the author did.

Wed, 2009-01-21 15:33

I loved this video so much I felt the need to add my own ... http://vimeo.com/2908402?pg=embed&sec=2908402

I love swearing.

Wed, 2009-01-21 14:04