Plastic Surgery: Pro or Con?

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Thu, 2010-03-04 10:07

I think we should be asking "Plastic Surgery: Pro or Con...for ourself?"
I don't believe in telling other people what they should and shouldn't do with their own bodies...so I definitely don't believe in chastising or judging others because they have had plastic surgery, whether I think it was a good or bad decision.
Unless it is a loved one (who I can be bossy with) or someone who is actually asking for my opinion...I'll just keep them to myself.

Tue, 2009-09-29 11:11

I disagree with the notion that women who want plastic surgery (out of true want, not need) do it to fit some societal based mold of beauty. I don't give a crap about that mold (I never fit in, never will, don't want to!) But I do care that I cringe when looking at certain parts of my body or when the husband and I are having sexy time and I have to lift my tits out of my armpits so he can have a lick.

Honestly, I really think that the people who are so against it and are relentless in proclaiming they love their post-baby body despite the havoc wreaked, probably didn't sustain a lot of damage. But there are some of us out there who truly didn't fair well. I have stretchmarks from boobs to thighs (not one or two, but hundreds and they're bigguns), including my vajayjay mound. Who gets stretch marks there? My breasts went from 34B's to 40D's with my second and then back down. I lost all solidity and literally have shells of saggy skin for boobs. Oh and I have the raisin belly that no amount of dieting, cardio or sit ups will help. I have to scoop it up and tuck into my pants.

These are not things I grew to love because they were the result of having my children. Fuck that. I want my body back! I don't want my boobs bigger nor do I wish to be a size 4. I just want things put back in their natural places.

My husband thinks I'm beautiful. I want to feel beautiful and I don't. And make no mistake, I love who I am. I don't want to fill some emotional void with a new body. I think I rock on the personality aspect and I think I can pull of being cute. But my body is something of a disaster that nothing short of a few thousands dollars will fix. I know. I've seen the surgeons already.

I was very anti-plastic surgery prior to children. I, too, thought it nothing more than vain attempts to buy into high standards of beauty. But not anymore. I still think it's done for those reasons, obviously, but not all of us who would give both our tits for a new pair want to do so for those reasons.

Fri, 2009-02-06 16:04

I don't really care whether or not people get plastic surgery. But based on my experience growing up in LA, I don't think it is truly satisfying or happy-making for most people that get it.

Thu, 2009-01-15 17:18

Ha! Totally!

Thu, 2009-01-15 15:28

Woops on the double post!

Thu, 2009-01-15 13:33

I HAVE had a boob job. Two actually. They were breast reductions but really, I see no difference. Sure my back hurt and I had to wear three sports-bras in PE class but the main reason I had the surgery was because I hated the way I looked. HATED. I hated my body and I hated my life because honestly? What you do and do not have physically can be a huge decider in your well-being.

I blogged about this, here: http://www.girlsgonechild.net/2006/08/breast-years-of-my-life.html

Having 36FF boobs at 18 was not a pleasant experience. So for me, I think surgery isn't so terrible. I don't begrudge those who chose to go under the knife. Having reduction surgery changed my life for the better and who am I to decide whether or not Jane Doe having a tummy tuck wouldn't have the same experience with her surgery?

Thu, 2009-01-15 13:32

Sign me up for a boob job in 2011. A free one, if possible.

I'm one of those people who has virtually no boobs. Before having my son, I was less than an A cup. Sad and pathetic. At the height of nursing, I was maybe a B. Right now, we're working on weaning... then getting pregnant with baby #2, then nursing again. After all that is done, I would totally get a boob job.

Why not? I was afraid to get one before having kids because I didn't want my own vanity to get in the way of nursing my son. I know that the risk of not being able to breastfeed is small, but even a small risk was unacceptable for me. Everyone has to make their own choice on what level of risk they are willing to accept.

Oh, and for the record, I wax, color my hair, and would totally get botox and lazer hair removal. If baby #2 wrecks the undercarriage, I might even consider some vaginal rejuvenation. Of course, all of this depends on economic circumstances as well, so maybe none of it will come to fruition. I'm just saying I'm not above getting a little work done. ;-)

Thu, 2009-01-15 12:35

I don't have a one-size-fits-all opinion on plastic surgery (or any elective surgery, for that matter). Would I get it done? Hell yeah, if I had the money. But I wouldn't do anything to my face. I'm not trying to look plastic or "perfect," I just would LOVE to have a flat stomach. It's genetics, the way I'm built. Even when I weighed 98 lbs I didn't have a flat stomach, so all the diet and exercise in the world isn't going to change that.

And I don't believe that my desire to have a flat stomach buys into any crazy ideal about women or means that I'm not comfortable in my own skin. It's just something I would change about myself if I could. I don't see anything wrong with that.

Of course, by the time I can actually afford it, I probably won't care so much any more. So WILL I have plastic surgery? Probably not.

Thu, 2009-01-15 09:44

The only person in this house who has had plastic surgery is my son (for birth defects that would have a daily impact). Cosmetic surgery and plastic surgery are not the same thing.

I believe aging women look beautiful and have a dignity and grace that is unique in someone who is comfortable with themselves as they are. I am hoping I can also grow old with grace and to accept the changes in my body as something to wear with pride - and as proof of using my body to the best of my ability.

Wed, 2009-01-14 21:10

Do I believe in plastic surgery? Hmmm. Constructive plastic surgery (masectomy patients, car accident victims, domestic violence injuries)? Of course. Plastic surgery (fake boobies, butts and vjay jays)? Not so much.

It cracks me up when some celeb - who clearly has gone under the knife - makes a best body or most beautiful list. Ah, magazine editors, don't you know she (or he) paid someone to make her look like that??? If you're full of plastic you should be on any kind of beauty list. Period. There are plenty of people out there who are naturally good looking - why don't we celebrate the Kate Winslets of the world instead??? She is gorgeous just the way she is.

But instead our society embraces so called plastic perfection. So much so some people go completely nuts in the operating room and come out looking like a cartoon character. You know the ones - the moms and dads who look nothing like their kids. How on Earth are they going to explain that to the kiddies later on?

Tracy
http://themoxiereport.blogspot.com

Wed, 2009-01-14 12:50

What a great topic! This has been on my mind off and on for years. Before kids I thought I would never, never, never, get plastic surgery, never. After my first two kids it was a comfort issue and a concern for my back that spurred me to get a tummy tuck. I couldn't get up without getting a kink in my side, I couldn't let my kids lean on my stomach because it was painful, no amount of sit ups could make it better. Because my stomach muscles weren't held together in the middle anymore, my back wasn't being supported anymore and I had had back problems before.
After the surgery everything is great and I didn't mind the boost of self confidence I got from not looking pregnant all of the time. I even had a baby afterward (a surprise) and my stomach is still holding up nicely. Even so it's my belief that looking better, in whoever's eyes, is not a good reason to get plastic surgery.
My warnings. Elective surgery is probably not the best idea if it's not a health concern or if your job doesn't depend on your looks. Hollywood makes it so hard for us to look at ourselves normally because they don't hire old, washed-out looking people. That also makes it hard for actors to get jobs. It's a vicious circle. All surgery has a level of danger to it. My recovery was exceedingly painful. Laughing and sneezing were excruciating. I couldn't pick up my one year old for a month. Torture in and of itself. I wouldn't go through it again just for asthetic reasons.
Ultimately, it's a personal choice. But, if your buying into the whole gotta look good scenario and decide to go for it, you're only encouraging the whole Hollywood, magazine, model image. This makes it that much harder for others to just say no.
Kellie
www.momranoutscreaming.com

Wed, 2009-01-14 12:20

It's funny--I used to think that I'd never even get my hair dyed. When I was an adolescent, I thought it was kinda vain. Now, I'm pretty sure that at some point, I will do it.

I'm intrigued with the idea of getting Lasik done to avoid having to wear glasses or contacts for the rest of my life, but I'm really too chicken. I'm really not that much of a risk-taker. I'd rather avoid having unnecessary surgery if I can. Things can go wrong. There are risks to surgery and anesthesia. I'm sure I'd do it if it were medically necessary surgery or even reconstructive surgery, but for pure beauty? Hmmm....I'd rather not.

Wed, 2009-01-14 10:01

hahahaha, daphne, LOVE the diagram!!!! that just made my day, seriously. my son is almost 9 months and i could only breastfeed him for 5 weeks because of his severe allergies. after ONLY 5 weeks of breastfeeding, my boobs = your diagram. you can't remedy that shit unless you do have plastic surgery. so am i advocating to have it done? eh, if it's your cup of tea... it's not mine (atleast not now, but i'm only 27 and have one child, so we'll see...) i will say though, this momversation topic got me thinking about yesterday's oprah. did anyone see it?? kate winslet was on post-golden globe wins and she was just glorious, as she should be. anyway, oprah was talking to her about her roles in "the reader" and "revolutionary road" and of course got on the topic of her sex scenes. then oprah said, "can i just say... god bless your real breasts!!!" and kate just EXPLODED with excitement and said, "WHY YES!!!" and there was a moment of just glorifying her boobs (post child) that do what normal boobs do-- sagging to the side of your body when you lay flat on your back, drooping when you take your bra off. for a moment, yesterday, when i watched this take place on oprah, i thought to myself, "yes, it is quite something to be celebrated."

Wed, 2009-01-14 09:59