How's your hoo-hah? Your twinkie? Your flower? How's your... vagina? Yep, doesn't quite have the same "cutesy" ring to it. And that's just fine with Daphne Brogdon of Cool Mom who is not a fan for precious nicknames for private parts (is private part a cutesy nickname?), especially when used by moms. Do these nicknames annoy you, and do you think kids should be taught them? Sound off!

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gina.mcmonigle.clark
4 weeks ago
If the kids have an issue - as in pain, someone has touched their genitalia (or any part of them in an uncomfortable way) etc. - they know that they can tell us using either the anatomical terms or whatever they call it (I say boy parts/girl parts - step-son says something else, don't know what he calls it). They know that if they are talking to a trusted adult, like a nurse/doctor, Church teachers, school officials etc. that they should use the anatomical terms because those people don't know what their "name" for their genitals are. And yes, they get that when they're young. Just like they know there are things they say to mom/dad etc. that their pediatrician, teachers etc. won't understand. I think it's essential that kids know the proper names for their body parts - all of them. But at home if you and the kids are more comfortable referring to parts by whatever name your mom or whoever used then that's okay too. As for nursing - totally completely, 100% NOT my business how long anyone else nurses their child. As the mom of a micro-preemie, if I'd been able to nurse I'd have done so for as long as I thought he'd benefit from breastmilk. Would I be okay with him reaching into my top as a signal he's hungry? No. My job as his mom is to teach him acceptable & unacceptable behaviors. I don't think U.S. society is tolerant or open ENOUGH to breastfeeding.
 
RDEL
4 weeks ago
USE THE PROPER NAMES!! I see no harm in doing so. My step daughter is 4 and has been taught by her biological mother that she has "privates" and "vagina" is not a nice word. So when she tells us that her "privates hurt" what is she talking about? Her bum or her vagina? I think that using silly names for anatomy teaches a level of shame for your body and there is nothing wrong with a vagina or penis and nothing to be ashamed of.
 
migidymike
4 weeks ago
I agree. Proper names is the way to go.
 
Lou
7 months ago
Daphne - totally agree! When a kid can walk up and is eye level with your chest and asks for boob, it is time to cease and desist the nursing (actually have a friend who nursed her kids until they were 3 years+). Eeeeeek. Sorry, JMHO. We never used any terms other than the usual pee-pee or maybe penie with our son. I never gave it much thought. Until ... Here's where I go Debbie Downer ... I did a training at my church a few years ago, it is required if you work with children (in nursery, in Sunday School, etc.). It was all about sexual abuse, the warning signs, how to handle various situations, etc. One thing that I found interesting was the topic of names kids have for their private parts. It is really important that kids of a certain age learn the proper names for their genitals ... or atleast pee-pee or wee-wee since most adults understand what that means. Case in point a little girl that was taught that her vagina was a "butterfly" ... this little girl had been touched there by a teenage neighbor and eventually told her preschool teacher about it ... it took the teacher quite a while to realize the seriousness of what she was being told because she had no idea that "my butterfly" was "my vagina". :(
 
Daphne
7 months ago
Oh, my that is an important story to tell. Thank you for sharing that.
 
Heather Sellers
7 months ago
Ok, so I'm sorry Daphne but I totally use names! As a grown woman around other grown women or men I use the proper terms but when I am talking to my 6 months olds, it's just not gonna happen. We call my son's penis his pee-pee and my daughter's vagina her hoo-hoo. While I totally get that kids need to understand their bodies and be comfortable with them, I don't think the cutesy names hurt. Maybe when they are old enough to verbalize this stuff we will go to the clinical terms but I just don't know, we shall see. P.S. When people ask me if my boy/girl twins are identical I really want to scream "Umm no, one has a penis and one has vagina!" Do people really not understand that people of different genders can't be identical? So sad.
 
Daphne
7 months ago
hoo-hoo?
 
Heather Sellers
7 months ago
Yeah, I don't know. I think vajayjay is a little vulgar and my mom used "in between" as in "in between your legs" and that was a little to "cutesy" even for me. Who knows how we come up with these things.
 
Jojo
7 months ago
Daphne, you had me until your last comment about how it might be time to wean when the baby is asking for "boobies". So, is Mindy wrong to have breastfed her children for so long? I'm sure they were fully capable of asking to nurse well before they were weaned. I think you were just trying to end with a funny comment but it's a topic for another Momversation about whether complete strangers (or family members) should decide that you need to stop nursing because your kid is older than the American average for weaning and probably much, much younger than the global average age for weaning. As for the naming of privates, I agree with Daphne but I seem to have already started using "Peepa" for my daughter's vagina. Some child development experts believe that you may be giving your daughter (girls in particular) an object of shame if use a cute and vague term for her privates. I don't know. It does give me yet another thing to stress over. Along those lines, Daphne's soft core comment really hits home in that same way. So "vagina" and "labia"? "Don't pull on your labia or you'll give it an owey!" "This is your nose. This is your vagina." It takes some getting used to.
 
Daphne
7 months ago
I don't know when Mindy nursed till. I nursed my daughter till she was about 2 years and 2 or 3 months( can't remember). They edit our comments, so I wasn't looking for an ender, but you are right, that's a good idea. It was from a longer story of a big kid ( I felt getting nursed), but yes, that is another issue. And yes, it might take getting use. The real names can sound more shocking then the funny ones.
 

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