Oh, what bugs me? The list is endless, as I'm sure his is. Little things like laundry on the floor, light bulbs not getting changed even with me standing there HOLDING the light bulb saying "please change that one way up there RIGHT NOW PLEASE!!" You know. "Stuff" Nothing that breaks my heart or makes me feel bad about myself. THOSE are the issues that aren't funny. I need coffee. Did this make sense? No. I think not.

My husband has been gone for most of our 2 yr plus marriage. But it is kinda funny, Karen, cause when I was 16 I made a list too. Thankfully, my husband is everything on that list. But the one thing that bugs me is that he is a huge health and exercise nut!! He says things like, Rachel, don't eat that or you should eat that. Then he goes on saying, Rachel, you should do some pull-ups. There is a girl here who can do 49 pull-ups and so on. I know he is trying to help me to get back into shape and all, but oh my goodness!!!!!!!

I wish my husband would be a little more spontaneous. It bugs me that I can read him so easily sometimes. If I ask for a foot rub and he doesn't protest, I know it's b/c he wants that foot rub to turn into something more. I would love just once for him to rub my feet and not try to get in my pants afterwards. That would totally blow my mind.

A. The selective cleaning. All my things and daughter's things must be put away or out of the way or whatever, but he'll leave cheese wrappers and bottle caps on the counter for DAYS. You don't get to choose what's clean, it's either clean or it's not! B. The leg jiggling. Over time he has developed adult ADD I think, and simply cannot sit still if his life depended on it. Leg jiggling, page flipping, nail picking, I just want to shake him and tell him to get a hobby! Laying in bed with his leg jiggling back and forth is like being on a very small boat in choppy waters. Not a cool way to fall asleep.

Hmm.. things about the hubs that bug me that never bugged me when we were dating. (Been married for 2.5 yrs.) 1. He takes longer showers than I do. Drives me nuts. What the heck is he doing in there? Don't answer that. 2. He doesn't really snore, there's occasional snoring, but there's mostly this weird CLICKING. Which is soft enough not to wake me up all the way, so I'll sleep in this half-awake sleep for like an hour before I fully wake up and go, "STOP CLICKING!" 3. I would like to know when exactly we transitioned from him being totally interested in what I'm saying, laughing along with me on dates to we come home from work, talking about our days and I'm doing the thing where I'm either ranting mad or telling a funny story and I look at him and there it is: glazed over face. Usually I'll ask him a question and there's no response. Did I get less interesting or did his attention span just disappear? All my friends still think I'm interesting... I think...

My husband is a super aggressive driver, so I'm always white-knuckled in the passenger seat, I would just drive, and sometimes do, but if I don't know where we're going, then he's like no just let me drive. I think I hate that the most. He trims his beard every morning over this vanity counter we have in our bathroom, but NEVER cleans up the stubble that ends up there. So, no matter how much I wipe it up (and we all know how easily hair wipes up) it's always a mess. He's addicted to the Internet, and spends about 18 hours a day on his computer, no lie. He even sits on the laptop and browses while we're watching TV. He's a terrible listener. I will tell him something important (and I've learned to ask for a response so I know he's heard me) and then the next week he's like, what's up with this? And I say, um we talked about this. Ugh, I hate that.

My husband cleans OBSESSIVELY. To the point where I cannot leave an empty glass on the table for two seconds without him getting up and running it to the kitchen sink. I can't even do the laundry in our house because I don't fold the shirts right. And if I leave them for him to fold, they wrinkle. Though, I guess those habits don't really bother me that much. The one really irritating thing, and I can't explain why it irks me so much, is that he constantly rearranges things. From the linen closet to the medicine cabinet to the refrigerator. NOTHING is ever where I put it. It drives me absolutely insane. Besides that, it's little things. Like spacing out while I'm talking. He's actually learned to recite the last fragment of whatever I'm saying so that it looks like he's been paying attention. Oh, I love that man.

my response here: http://vimeo.com/4168722

Boy, did this come at the right time--I'm going through a fed-up phase right now. My top three: 1. He refuses to take any part in maintaining order and cleanliness in our home, UNTIL 2-3 hours before someone is supposed to come over, at which point he runs around trying to deep-clean to Martha Stewart perfection, all while muttering about my "low standards" and "refusal to participate in housework." He balks when, after the guests have left, I suggest that more of an effort to pick up after ourselves on a daily basis would make the cleaning sprints go more smoothly. 2. Our closets are filled to bursting with stuff he can't bear to get rid of (unplayed musical instruments, paperwork from three jobs ago, clothes he hasn't worn since his 20s) but he only complains about the small section that's filled with my stuff, 80-90% of which I actively use. 3. He talks to himself all the time; it's a constant running monologue and it wears me out. Is he talking to me? No. Is he talking to me now? No. I usually tune him out, but inevitably he'll drop one sentence that's directed at me into the torrent of words, then get angry at me for not responding. Most of the time I try to remind myself that he's probably got a similar list of annoying things I do, and I usually can let these things float by. But when the rest of our life gets rough (like now) the little things are suddenly the most annoying.

haha Meesha I am totally guilty of #3. Especially when watching TV.