Agreed.

Okay, so our "kid" is a dog (an adorable but hyper 1.5 yr old Jack Russell / Border Collie mix) BUT I have to admit, I have the better deal. I work part time so I can try to launch my career as an author, and Andy is the breadwinner. He is also the bread-MAKER -- meaning he cooks all the meals because I am a DISASTER in the kitchen. (I do dishes, though!) He also does laundry and vacuums. I pick up things (like his shorts or wet towels) and put stuff away. I take out the trash and recycling. I run errands. We grocery shop together. And I have probably 65% of dog duty while he takes about 35%. So I'm more of the "parent" but he handles everything else, and I have to admit, I feel like I have a pretty sweet deal. I don't think our (im)balance will always be this way, but it's nice that he helps provide me with the opportunities to achieve my dreams. :)

I think in most traditional setups, the dad gets the better deal. Mom carries, delivers and nurses/cares for the baby from the get, so it's hard for dad to get in there anywhere. I think in my particular case - we have a 6.5 year old and almost 2 year old...and he definitely gets the better deal. I think its something we've both grown to accept though. I work from home, I work a full 40+ hour week, here from home for an outside company. So we save on daycare, that's the deal we made when we had kids. I'd figure out how to balance the working and kid care in order to save that for us. He does the lawn mowing, pool vaccuming and car stuff. I do the dishes, laundry, all kid stuff, bills, etc. It's not an even setup, I don't think it really can be. I feel a little bit like someone said where sometimes I don't want him to do particular things because he won't do it the way I want, and I accept that as a flaw within myself, not him. Of course I wish he changed more diapers, got up early so I could sleep/shave, fed the girls ever. But sometimes, its just how things fall. And in the end, we both (or all three) get to sit on the couch and watch the toddler walk around with a happy meal box on her head and laugh. And those are the parts that really matter.