How Do You Find Me Time?

Finding me time is nearly impossible when you have kids. There are constant interruptions, and let's face it, they're not always from your children. When the kids are done monopolizing your time, your husband is there to pick up the slack. Then there's work, friends, and other commitments.Guests (and authors of Today's Moms: Essentials for Surviving Baby's First Year) Alicia Ybarbo and Mary Ann Zoellner asks, "How do you find 'me' time?"

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Wenberger
7 months ago

I can't quite figure it out, to be honest. I am in the throws of launching a business and raising my girls and even when I do get me time, I don't quite know what to do with it. I fear I'm loosing my ability to relax. Perhaps I need more practice.

elie7
3 yearss ago

Was just wondering that this morning, and then baby and I managed naps in separate rooms. Thank you ladies!

bee725
3 yearss ago

I am days away from my due date still so I know I have a lot to learn still but I've noticed that when I really want to get out of doing something I just have to be cute enough to get away with it: My boyfriend knows that I can sleep through just about anything and as long as I look cute enough (as in not sprawled across the bed snoring and drooling with my mouth open)- think innocent angel pose- he just can't bring himself to wake me up. So in those middle of the night wakings with our newborn or even during the day while he is home I'm sure I'll pull this trick :) And yes, sleeping, to me, is the best kind of "me" time there is.

kari582
3 yearss ago

My daughter isn't old enough yet for me to bribe her to get "Me" time. My husband, however, is more than willing to take bribes. Don't get me wrong, he is always more than willing to let me have some alone time when he's home or go out (sans baby and husband) but if I can throw something in there for him, that makes the deal even sweeter! BTW- Heather, I love your new hair! It's great to see you back!

VIP09
3 yearss ago

Me time comes and goes in my house. When hubby is away on tour or a course, me time will never happen. BUT once he is home and the kids call "Daddy!" that's my cue to exit and hide in my room. I've actually threatened once that I was going to bring up a gallon of water and a box of protein bars and hide in the bedroom all weekend with my laptop, iPod and TV. That's all I usually need for me time. That's not true I also need the staple of every me time and that is my bed! When I can get time without someone demanding something from me or staring down at a massive to-do list is a good day. And I will honestly admit that there have been times that the to-do list doesn't get done if I'm able to get some me time!

kristing104
3 yearss ago

My "me" time is going to Barnes and Noble with a cup of coffee and sitting down on a comfy chair to read a book. Heaven.

Lara
3 yearss ago

Currently I'm going through an adjustment period, having just moved in with my boyfriend and his two little boys. Even though the boys are only here 50% of the time, the other 50% of the time I end up mostly spending with my boyfriend. I have trouble carving out time for myself to do the things I used to get done in my spare time at home -- household stuff like balancing the checkbook or organizing the house. Then there's the stuff I like to do that he doesn't (read: hours of bad TV ;) )When the kids are around, it's all about them and when it's just us alone, we want to take advantage of the time together, so a lot of those things get pushed off to the side. We're getting better about it though. One of our main strategies is to make sure the kids get to bed early. They are routinely in bed by 8. This, in my opinion, is good for them AND good for us. That gives us an evening to both spend some time on our own and then come back together for some QT together. I see a lot of couples who are still running around after kids as late as 10 and I think it's a little bit of self-sabotage. By then, you're ready to pass out and then 6am rolls around and kid-life is starting up all over again. Our other main thing is if one of us is feeling overwhelmed, we step away. It's great for us both to be there with the kids, but sometimes, you just need a break and as long as one of you has a handle on things, you're golden. So I might go and hide off in our room or go out for a bit...He might take a nap or go for a run. Besides giving each other "me-time" it also helps either one of us from unnecessarily snapping at the kids.

BabblingAbby
3 yearss ago

I am so with Daphne on the vacation being, well, not really a vacation once you have kids. We just returned from a week in Northern Michigan for the first time since having a baby, and OHMYWORD it was chaos. Nothing like previous vacations, in that we spent most of our time tethered to a baby monitor or defending our one-year-old, newly walking child from sharp and pointy objects. Just a new normal, if you will. Anyway, as pathetic as it may sound, I get me time when I grocery shop by myself, spend a couple hours working in my classroom, or during naptime when I blog, shower, pay bills, do laundry (in the event that I even feel like doing laundry), or read. When you're a mom, it's like you're always "on," multitasking like crazy so that not only is baby happy and occupied, but also so that dinner is in the works and the bathroom sink is clean for the first time in ages. It might not be the me time that I once had, but I really do love being a mom and just have to come to terms with the fact that I can't do everything now that my son is around :D

kstallant
3 yearss ago

I actually find me time while cooking dinner. My husband watches the kids while I cook. It may not seem like much, but it totally works for me.

One Woman Party
3 yearss ago

Great video. I feel that me-time was much easier with one kid. Now, with two toddlers, frankly, the amount of logistics I have to master in order to slip out of the house for an hour or two is sometimes too daunting and I'd rather just stay up late with a good book after the little muffins are in bed.

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