Sex After Baby

How do you mentally, emotionally, and physically regain your sex life after giving birth? Rebecca Woolf of Girl's Gone Child asks the ladies of Momversation how their sexuality was affected after they had a baby, and what it took - or takes - to get back to their sex lives. What was your experience after giving birth? What adjustments or changes did you make to your sex life after having kids? Tell us in the comments, and visit our related forums for more advice.

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theladyslounge
2 yearss ago

I'm so thankful that my pregnancies and birth experiences really made me feel more in touch with myself and my body, and more sure of who I was. If this effected me sexually it was only in a positive way. http://www.theladyslounge.com

theladyslounge
2 yearss ago

mamaemma
2 yearss ago

Honestly in a lot of ways having a baby together improved our sex life. I think that becoming a mother has made me sexier to my husband. And nothing is hotter than a man taking care of your baby. I'd say we've definitely learned the value of a quickie (she's asleep, take your pants off, now!) A baby has certainly lowered the frequency, but we've always been quality and not quantity people. I think the only hard part has been my view of my post-partum body. If you've figured out acceptance of the 'belly' afterwards you are stronger woman than I. www.redearthsafari.blogspot.com

MICHELLE PAIGE ...
3 yearss ago

REALLY LADIES THE WAY YOU FEEL ISN'T CRAZY MEN ARE BIG PEOPLE WITH A BOYS MIND IN MY EXPERIENCE MOST MEN WANT WHAT THEY HAD AS LITTLE BOYS EXAMPLE PLASTIC ARMY MEN VIDEO GAMES ALOT OF MEN ARE AFRAID TO BE REALLY WHO THEY ARE MY SUGGESTION PUT ON A SEXY DRESS AN HIGH HEALS WALK AROUND THE HOUSE PUT ON SOME MUSIC AN DANCE IN THE MIRROR UNTIL YOU FIND YOURSELF AGAIN GET DRESSED UP WHEN YOU GO TO SHOPPING YOU HAVE TO FEEL SEXY WITHIN WE ALL HAVE TO HAVE THE POWER TO RESCUE OURSELVES ONE DAY AT A TIME I'M OFF TO THE LIBRARY TAKE CARE LADIES AN THANK YOU

CoachShalanda
3 yearss ago

Sex after baby??? Yeah, right! My body responded differently after each child. With my first child, I was too sore to even think about sex. The second child-well, I couldn't wait to have sex. The third-it took a few months before I wanted to do anything. For one, I was busy with 3 kids and tired by the end of the day and didn't even want to think about waking up early for some lovemaking. My husband and I really had to be patient with one another because he was ready, of course, and I wasn't. But now, I'm well rested for the most part and it's ALL GOOD! Shalanda www.tookeswilderguidance.com

MICHELLE PAIGE ...
3 yearss ago

wow

AJavaJunkie
3 yearss ago

My husband and I had sex during the pregnancy and right after I had our son we wanted to have sex again. My son had jaundice and we had to go to the hospital, again, for a week. We were crazy for each other. We had to go in the hospital's room to get naughty (and so the nurse wouldnt see us when she was checking on our son).

Peachy 23
3 yearss ago

Yeah.... we didn't make it to 6 weeks. Guess its different for everyone. After the birth of our son, we felt closer than we ever have before. Once I had recovered (in my own opinion) I couldn't wait. I was a little sore afterwards but it was worth it! I had an episiotomy and then tore a bit anyway (yeah THANKS doc. lotta good that snip did.) But eventually it healed. If you're reading these and you're about to have your baby and deal with all of this for the first time then listen - everyone's experience is different. Also - try red wine. It sent me into labor AND perked up our sex life 4 weeks postpartum. I hear its also good for general health but I'm very pleased with its helpful contributions in my own life.

FrogCall
3 yearss ago

Another mom here with No. Desire. What-so-ever. Our daughter is 18 months old. We haven't had sex since she was conceived. Go on, pick yourself up off the floor and back on your chair. I don't know what to think or say about it either.

Mindy
3 yearss ago

@Odessa I giggle at least once a day thinking of that, and apply it to so many situations. @everyone Everyone here is normal! However, if I were a guy, I hope I'd try to read up and figure out how to help. The most sensitive and supportive fathers I know all say, "I'm so grateful to be a man, because it's hard to see what my wife goes through and I just try to help her through it." I was all, where's my supportive man?? I thought I married one! My marriage wasn't at its best starting just before the birth and near-death of our second, when the lack of support and understanding, which had been a red flag waving for a couple years but was now a raging railroad track warning, completely dried up. I had a high-pressure job, PPD, a toddler, a critically ill infant who came home from the hospital with blown veins, a mohawk, and addicted to Morphine, with half a dozen meds to administer around the clock. All critical, all different, and I wandered around with a color-colored clipboard to match the bottles and syringes for six months. I can't remember if or how many times my husband helped carry the ball. Finally, we had sex for the first time since the birth nine months earlier (and the last time for the marriage). THAT'S when I got pregnant with our third, I so hear you, Mom of a Lot! Although I had virtually no drive and no desire to be intimate with my now-ex, I think it had more to do with trust and security than biology. Biology would have played a part, but I know that the man I'm with now would have tried to buck me up and help me get excited about things again. I never knew what good sex was until after my divorce. Funny, huh? Just figuring out what an orgasm's like at 37. Awesome. I win.

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