When Does Your Kid's Modesty Kick In?

The tush. There is nothing cuter than a kid's tush. But at what point, do we have to step awaaaay from the tush and keep our hands to ourselves in order to teach our kids a bigger lesson: Privacy. When it comes to privacy, how much does it need to be enforced in our own homes? Should your kids see you naked?Today, Maggie Mason, Daphne Brogdon and Alice Bradley open up about how their children's issues with modesty has changed the way they parent

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anna14903
5 months ago

When i have children especially daughters. I have no intentions in hiding them from me and the wife having sex. I feel they should be brought up in a world accepting voyeurism and Incest as a normal part of life. Why should we stop them from doing something that's natural. if my daughters/sons choose to investigate and wish to join in at any age myself and my wife have no intentions in stopping them. Why should society and the government Choose what is right FOR OUR KIDS THAT WE PRODUCED. We personally believe that There should be NO Minimum age of consent. I know that when i myself was under 10 i masturbated And the girl whom i lost with was under 10. we knew alot at that age And knew this through natural exploring of one another over a year or so. Neither of us had come from incest or sexual backgrounds. Also kids these days know more than ever soo why put a law on something that there gonna try anyway. But probably in a more dangerous situation from trying to do it behind folks back. I know of an 8yo girl, who can operate a computer, Has setup her own Facebook account, Faked her age, and chats up older guys. She worked out herself how to send sexy photos of herself and has a vocab like you wouldn't believe. She has never been molested, groomed or exposed to anything before she's just a smart girl WHO IS WITH ME Incest Should be Legal There should be NO AGE OF CONSENT Voyeurism of any age LEGAL

nannycheyenne
2 yearss ago

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AmberStrocel
2 yearss ago

My 5-year-old has an academic understanding of privacy. She knows that there are certain activities better suited for doing alone. She knows that she can't take her clothes off when company's over. And she knows that she should close the door when she's using a public washroom. I started teaching her these things when she was around 3 years old, I think. Once her language was advanced enough to get the concept. But for her, it's still all academic. If I hadn't told her, she'd have no problem playing naked in the park. I suspect that at some point that will change, but for now it's enough that she understands that we need to respect other people's comfort levels, as well as our own.

ZestyBee
2 yearss ago

Heh. When I first saw my daughter fiddling around 'down there,' I made an effort to not stigmatize the behavior; I just said that it was a private thing people did in their rooms. I was applauding myself for being such an open thinker, but my partner thought I was crazy. I guess he was right...we got the call from the babysitter the next week saying that she had stepped into the kitchen to cook lunch and when she came back our three-year-old was pretty much holding an instructional session on how to masturbate for a roomful of preschoolers. So, that was fun.

SilverXeno
2 yearss ago

Neither of my kids mind being naked, or walking around the house while I'm pulling their outfits from various drawers, laundry baskets, & folded piles all over..."Here, put this on..." and they get dressed right where they're standing. My 6 yr old does ask for privacy in the bathroom...she has been doing this since she was about 2. I can't remember exactly when it came up, but it's been a while..."That kind of touching needs to stay in the bathroom, please! THANKS!" I think once I sort of drew her attention to the fact that it was happening...she stopped doing it. My husband and I both used to bathe the kids, and when we were bringing them into the room where we were going to dress them, we would go, "Naked baby, naked baby!" And now that is sort of a chant every time a kid comes out of the shower, haha...and when I am changing the first diaper of the morning for the litle one (and usually getting her out of PJs into daytime clothes) the older one will start the "naked baby" chant. The little one takes that as a cue to stick her but out & go, "Oooooh MY BUTT MY BUTT MY NAKED BUTT!" *That* chant wasn't my idea!

SarahC
2 yearss ago

Well, my son is 9 so we've been through a few things. I guess I talked to him about his privates (what to keep private) pretty early .. maybe 3/4 yrs old since he was in daycare and of course you just want them to be aware. And, in terms of the touching themselves, yeah I remember when he was younger he'd sort of fiddle with is watching t.v. You of course don't want to give them a complex that sexuality if dirty or bad, but I do remember saying, that if he wanted to do that he should do it in the privacy of his own room. I'm not sure, but somewhere along the way, he seemed to have developed a complex about his privates though, that he wouldn't even let the dr. touch is parts to check them (which she tried last year but he was too shy). I did talk to him before this yrs appt. to just make an amendment that only parents OR the dr. could be able to see his privates (for medical purposes only of course). Sarah

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