Which Parent Has the Better Deal?

Two parents enter; one parent leaves. It's the battle of the century. It's the war to end all wars. Who. Will. Change. The. Poopy. Diaper?! Sound a wee bit familiar? If your family is like most, it's hard to divide up all of the the chores and childcare duties. A lot of times, each parent feels he or she is doing all of the work. Maggie Mason of Mighty Girl asks the panelists, "Which parent in your family has the better deal?"

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Richard
2 yearss ago

why are you featuring videos that are over a year old? this makes me suicidal.

The Moxie Report
2 yearss ago

Agreed.

bethlemanach
2 yearss ago

Hi Guys, Beth Le Manach here. I'm the VP of Programming at DECA. As you may have noticed we launched a new site design a few weeks ago. In the new launch, there were a few things that were not exactly working properly. So, we took the week off from video production to devote the time to fix things. We are making progress and hope to have most of the kinks worked out by early next week. In the meantime, I am planning new shoots as we speak and should be back with a new episode towards the end of next week! Aside from the archival content, what do you think of the new design?

The Moxie Report
2 yearss ago

Ah, now everything is beginning to make sense. I would love to see dates listed beneath each video so visitors know exactly when the video was posted to the site. That would be super helpful. Other than that the site looks good.

bethlemanach
2 yearss ago

Yes I agree dates next to the videos in the video stream is a great idea. Adding that one to the list of improvements. Thanks for the feedback!

Mindy
2 yearss ago

I admit to a vested interest but I miss the list of panelists for each episode. I can't tell you how many people I've sent here to watch so-and-so's last video! (Tried to post this from my iphone but doesn't seem to work with mobile devices. Another feature suggestion!)

JMef
2 yearss ago

I would really like it if there were a way to filter the videos and see just the Momversation Videos instead of having the Momversation, Cool Mom and the new feature videos all mixed together. While there is some filetering ability now, it doesn't (or I haven't figured out how) show just the Momversation videos with the most recent first. It just seems to allow you to filter by subject.

bethlemanach
2 yearss ago

Yes that will be fixed shortly. When we relaunched the site we thought it would be great to include other types of content that would compliment Momversation. But shortly after we launched we realized it might be adding to some of the confusion users were experiencing. We also wondered if it diluted the brand as well. So while we will continue to have a drop down menu for Her Story, we will no longer promote it or Cool Mom in the featured player or in the video stream. This should make your navigation much easier since the only videos featured in these areas will be Momversation. Hope that helps. Thanks for the feedback!

kristanhoffman
3 yearss ago

Okay, so our "kid" is a dog (an adorable but hyper 1.5 yr old Jack Russell / Border Collie mix) BUT I have to admit, I have the better deal. I work part time so I can try to launch my career as an author, and Andy is the breadwinner. He is also the bread-MAKER -- meaning he cooks all the meals because I am a DISASTER in the kitchen. (I do dishes, though!) He also does laundry and vacuums. I pick up things (like his shorts or wet towels) and put stuff away. I take out the trash and recycling. I run errands. We grocery shop together. And I have probably 65% of dog duty while he takes about 35%. So I'm more of the "parent" but he handles everything else, and I have to admit, I feel like I have a pretty sweet deal. I don't think our (im)balance will always be this way, but it's nice that he helps provide me with the opportunities to achieve my dreams. :)

melissa_anderson
3 yearss ago

I think in most traditional setups, the dad gets the better deal. Mom carries, delivers and nurses/cares for the baby from the get, so it's hard for dad to get in there anywhere. I think in my particular case - we have a 6.5 year old and almost 2 year old...and he definitely gets the better deal. I think its something we've both grown to accept though. I work from home, I work a full 40+ hour week, here from home for an outside company. So we save on daycare, that's the deal we made when we had kids. I'd figure out how to balance the working and kid care in order to save that for us. He does the lawn mowing, pool vaccuming and car stuff. I do the dishes, laundry, all kid stuff, bills, etc. It's not an even setup, I don't think it really can be. I feel a little bit like someone said where sometimes I don't want him to do particular things because he won't do it the way I want, and I accept that as a flaw within myself, not him. Of course I wish he changed more diapers, got up early so I could sleep/shave, fed the girls ever. But sometimes, its just how things fall. And in the end, we both (or all three) get to sit on the couch and watch the toddler walk around with a happy meal box on her head and laugh. And those are the parts that really matter.

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